Category Archive
The following is a list of all entries from the kids category.
The hills are alive
Chichi is practicing for 2 Christmas programmes this year. One at school and one at gymnastics. Yesterday she went to the dressmaker to take measurements for her gymnastics costume. That reminded me we needed to see if she had a party dress that fit her to wear for the school pageant. The kids are presenting the Sound of Music and the girls need to wear party dresses, party shoes and ribbons in their hair. Chichi has a couple of really fancy party dresses handed down from a friend that she has never worn. I tried both of them on her yesterday and luckily, one still fits. As we were trying them on she said: I have to wear this? YUCK! I hate dresses. I told her that she also needed to have ribbons in her hair. She thought that sounded terrible. Meanwhile, her brother was watching the whole scene and he had a different reaction. He said: Mommy can you buy me one of those?
Ramps…
Yesterday we spent the day with some friends and on our way back we went over a speed bump. I was not totally ready when we went over it. As a result I went over it rather abruptly. Lu asked me what had happened. I explained that we had just gone over a speed bump. He asked what a speed bump was. Chichi and I tried to explain to him what a speed bump was exactly. We told him that it was like a ramp in the road that made cars go slower. He wanted to know what else it made go slower. We answered that trucks and motorcycles also went slower over speed bumps. Then he wanted to know what a ramp was. Again, we said it was something that made cars and so on, go slower. Then he said, what else is it? I said it was something that made things go up. He said again, what else is it? I told him the same thing again, and again he asked the same question. I tried to think of other ways to define ramp, but again, he was not satisfied. I thought of a lock and that it might be a device that helped another item go from one level to another. He was not satisfied by my answer and I simply could not think of anything else, so I resorted to diversion tactics to get him to stop talking about it.
The most powerful aspect of this relentless questioning is that it starts to fool you into thinking that maybe you don’t have all the answers.
Notes
Have you ever stopped to consider the world of possibilities in a note? Some of the note types that spring to mind are thank you, doctor`s, and principal`s. Yet there are also notes in the following varieties: foot, musical and bank. This may not be an exhaustive list, but that`s not the point. These lists do not include the best ones – those which are written by your own young children who may not know how to write or spell that well, but that can convey their profound sense of love nonetheless.
We received a note after our daughter`s sleep away camp that said something like:
“Dear Mom and Dad, you are very nice.”
I was thrilled to receive the note and put it on the fridge beside the note she wrote to her brother, which by the way said he was very cool and very cuddly! So the other day I decided to leave a note on my kids` pillows before I went out to work. In the middle of the night my daughter woke up with a start and proceeded to wake up her little bro too. When I got them back into their room, my daughter looked at the bookshelf where she had placed the note. At one in the morning she thanked me for my note.
That falls into the category of love note.
Running with scissors…
Today I took my students on a tour of the school. We first visited the server room, then the library and several other locations of network interest on our campus.
When we arrived in the preschool area, my son was standing in the middle of the path with scissors in his hand. He and another little girl from his class were clipping blooms off plants to place in a basket. When he saw me and all my students, he ran away. I had such a big smile on my face, I couldn’t talk. One of my students had to tell him – hold the scissors the other way – don’t run – be careful.
As we were finishing our tour and ready to go back up to our room, Lu reappeared with the same girl. He came running up to me this time to tell me they had collected enough blooms.
Too much of a good thing…
Chichi was at a 3-day camp this past weekend with 2 friends from school. She called us a couple of times from the camp and wanted to talk to us and so we went over there twice. I went with Lu on the last day and hung out there for the afternoon while she was in the pool, and with her friends. It seemed like she was happy to be home, but that she had enjoyed her stay at the camp.
That all changed on Monday when I saw her at lunch. I had just placed my tray on the table when she bounded over to me and hugged me tightly. She was bawling uncontrollably and it took me a long time to understand what she was saying. When she finally calmed down, she told me that Lu did not say hello to her when he saw her at school that day. He had only said “hi” to one of the friends that went with her to the camp. Her conclusion was that he forgot about her when she was away. I told her I would eat lunch with her and we talked. I convinced her to stay at school for the afternoon.
When we got home and told Lu about the confusion he had caused at school, he was dumbfounded and had absolutely no idea what we were talking about. So there was no closure there.
This morning I left before she got up, and so I did not realize it was still a thing. Chichi just could not get herself to school today. Again, she woke up crying and carrying on. Apparently there is something going on. I just have no idea what it might be.
The Power of Pop
My son was asking me the other day to sing the “Halloween song” with him – you know the one – “shilla, shilla nye”. You may also know it as “Thriller, thriller night…” – well 3 year old, 2nd language, kid vocab does not lend itself well to the “TH” sound. But surpisingly you can tell what the song is by the tune!
The funny thing is that my son is totally devoted to his sister. For example, she only wants to listen to the “High School Musical” CD in the car. There is no such thing as musical democracy with her and no time for anyone else’s music. So when she has not asked to listen to the CD, he will. He loves the song, “The boys are back…” and was encouraging us to sing the following: “shilla, shilla nye – The boys are back…” Can you hear that?
Possibly the funniest thing about all of his antics is that Chichi and I now look at each other and bust up about the things he says like: “rabanada (french toast) cookies”!
Peacemaker and the irony of it all…
So yesterday I was trying to get the family rallied to talk on Skype. The kids were busy doing crafts and I thought we were golden. However, it all went south when they started pushing and shoving each other with scissors in their hands. We all know how that might have turned out, so I quickly hung up on the family and put each of the kids in time out. Lu was wailing like a stuck pig in the living room and Chichi was doing anything but, in her room. As a result of the bad behaviour, we agreed that neither I nor her father would attend her school presentation. That sent the sound meter off the charts.
We all decided that she could come up with an alternative punishment if she wanted to have us there at her presentation. So I asked her what alternative punishment she wanted. Her response? “Mahatma Ghandi”. Me: “Pardon…”
So it seems the presentation was all about peace. The children presented information about Mahatma Ghandi, Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King Jr. They also presented “skits” which described how to deal with conflicts. The resolutions were to do rock-paper-scissors to mediate disagreements and to say sorry when you take something without asking. So I sat there watching the spectacle wondering again how it was that I live in a parallel universe. My daughter can give a speech about Mahatma Ghandi and act out non-violent conflict resolution but at the same time do nothing of the sort at home with her little bro.
Milestones…
I almost fell off my chair the other day in the kitchen. I was eating dinner with my kids and Lu was using a knife and fork to eat his dinner. It was so cute and he was actually pushing his food onto his fork successfully. I was blown away by that because I did not imagine that 3 year olds would have that kind of coordination. When he wants to, he can be so grown-up and mature. Then there are times when he is still a baby. Today I woke him up to have a shower before school. When it was time to get out of the shower, he did not want to. So he started to howl. He was screaming that he wanted more water, more water. I left him to howl and he got himself out of the shower – which is no small feat. Then he proceeded to run around naked screaming more water, more water. So I weighed my options and decided I was not going to be able to win that battle, so I put him back in the shower and turned on the water. He stayed in for approximately 10 seconds and got more water. After that he was happy to get out. Go figure.
In other milestone news Chichi is doing a very nice job with reading. She can read in both English and Portuguese. There is not a book that she does not attempt to read in either language. She has her own “books” to read from school which are sent home every week to reinforce vocabulary. When she is reading her books, Lu is “reading” his. After Chichi has read her books, Lu wants to read his. When I start to read the books to Lu, Chichi insists on reading every other page. She is extremely motivated to read and I love that.
I really enjoy reading. I have read a couple of very good books lately. The first one was Are you somebody? which is a biography of an Irish writer. This woman led an extremely interesting life and her biography was also. Then I read The Gathering – a book about an Irish family. The book was so compelling I read it in one day when I was in Colombia. I was at a particularly sad part, balling my eyes out when one of my colleagues phoned to see what we were going to do that day. It was pretty weird, because she is a psychologist and thought I was going through something. I was, I guess! After that book I read The Way the Crow Flies. The story takes place in Canada during the 1960’s and it is set in a place that reminded me of the military base near where I grew up. It was based on a true story and I absolutely loved it. At the end there was an unbelievable twist which my mom would have probably figured out, but which I did not see coming. Right now I am reading one of my Christmas books The Flying Troutmans and it is wonderful. It is not overly well written, but it is engaging and fun to read.
Now we are three…
Yesterday was Lu’s birthday and I told him the story of his birth. (Clearly I did not go into many details, but I told him the essential parts!) It is such a funny story and so different from Chiara’s birth, that it is worth noting here.
I was off work for more than a month, because all indicators suggested that he would be early. So we called my mother-in-law and she rushed down with my father-in-law and they started the camp-out at our place to wait for Lu. I busied myself with the preparations and doctor’s appointments. During my final doctor’s appointment after almost one month of waiting, I asked the doctor if it made sense to wait any longer. She said I could wait, but we were already at 40 weeks and that meant that I had to do a bunch of tests. I was so tired of all the tests and probes that I decided to give up on having a natural birth. I told the doctor to go ahead and schedule a C-section. She did. I had a hospital room reserved for me to do a C-section at 6 pm on May 18th.
Well, that was clearly not the plan that Lu had. He was with me on the natural birth idea. But, he waited until the VERY last moment to let me know! Things started early on the morning of May 18th and he was born at about 10:30 am. At the end of the day it was very smooth, but as in the case of Chichi, when things started to get going, they went very quickly. I don’t remember this, but my husband tells me that my doctor was chasing after me down the hall doing the two-step to put her shoes on as I was being wheeled into the OR. I, of course, was getting in touch with my tribal self (if you know what I mean) but to avoid any embarassment, I squeezed my eyes closed! Yeah – that whole natural birth thing they show on TV and in movies is SO not what it’s really like. There is absolutely no way to remain even remotely civilized. It is savage.
But, the great thing about a natural birth is that you are back to humanity so quickly afterwards. I was taken to my room after the ordeal, I took a shower, had lunch and then walked to the nursery. That was fantastic and surprisingly, the beast in me earlier vanished!
Growing up…
I remember when Chichi was a baby and I had just come back from my Mat Leave and one of my colleagues was commenting that soon she would be studying at our school. I thought that day would take such a long time to arrive. Well, it didn’t. She is now out of pre-school and my son is entering. We had to schedule the day for him to come and take the pre-test. (I hope he passes and is accepted!) Actually, there is no way he will not pass. I guess in the worst-case scenario he will be asked to wait a year. (That won’t happen though, at least I don’t think it will.) I was asked to fill out a form describing his habits and personality. That was pretty interesting because he is a talkative, social, sweet boy. He loves his sister to such an extent that he wants to do everything she does. He plays with her and her friends and seems to treat them as if they were his friends. He made friends at his own school and talks about Dudu a lot. I don’t know him, but this Dudu character must be quite something! So it will be interesting to see how Lu manages in the Montessori classroom since it is so different from what he is used to. I remember the day that Chichi did her test as if it were yesterday. She had on these really cute red capris and a matching light blue cross-over top with flowers on it that my mom had given her. (All her cute clothes were given by grandma!) She was also wearing the giraffe backpack that she had received from her grandpa and she just looked so ready to start school. I remember watching her leave and getting all teared up when she went off to do her test class. I was so full of pride and expectations for her as was her father. I am sure it will be the same for Lu, except for the fact that we as parents are so much more relaxed with the second child. I always thought I would be a relaxed parent, but I am not. I have no idea how to be more relaxed either, if you want to know the truth. It comes down to the idea of caring I think. There is always going to be something going on with them that I care about, be it something I want to follow because I am very interested or because I am very concerned. I think it is somewhat of a teeter-totter: sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down. It reminds me of Go Dog Go. “The blue dog is up, the red dog is down”. There is no purple dog in the middle.
